Love Your Neighbor Thursday

Drop off items this Thursday, June 4th

Want to bless people in a practical way? We’ll be collecting your donated items this coming Thursday, June 4th, between 3:00-6:00 pm. Just drop them off at Resurrection Church and we’ll make sure they are delivered to those with need.

Here are some suggestions:

  • Non-perishable food
  • Unopened medical supplies
  • Diapers
  • Wipes
  • Feminine hygiene products
  • Toilet paper
  • Paper towels
  • Formula
  • Masks
  • Hand sanitizer

Love Your Neighbor Thursday2020-06-03T12:19:41-05:00

Lent Fellowship Study Groups

What if we all blessed three people every week? What if we just started there? Would that surprise the world? Would that change us? Let’s find out! Join us on the journey to #surprisetheworld this Lenten season. We’ll study and discuss the book “Surprise the World” which challenges us to lead lives that cause the world to question how we love and serve so well.

Study groups begin February 26th

Experience community and fellowship in a small group setting. Lent Fellowship Study groups meet weekly in host homes across Hastings leading up to Easter. Watch for sign-up sheets coming soon!

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Ready to host a group this year? Great! Just click the button below.

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Scrip Cards on Sale

Scrip Cards: Final Sale!

A percentage of each gift card purchased goes directly to funding ministry at Resurrection. Pick yours up in the Higher Grounds Cafe or the church office. Limited quantities.

$100

4% donation

Cost: $98.00

Purchase at the Higher Grounds Cafe

$50

4% donation

Cost: $49

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$25

8% donation

Cost: $24

Purchase at the Higher Grounds Cafe

$25

8% donation

Cost: $24

Purchase at the Higher Grounds Cafe

$25

4% donation

Cost: $24.50

Purchase at the Higher Grounds Cafe

$25

8% donation

Cost: $24

Purchase at the Higher Grounds Cafe

$25

9% donation

Cost: $24

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$10

4% donation

Cost: $9.70

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$10

10% donation

Cost: $9.50

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$5

5% donation

Cost: $4.90

Purchase at the Higher Grounds Cafe

Scrip Cards on Sale2019-10-04T19:44:49-05:00

DVD List

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The Family Test

Use the following scale:

1 = Seldom or never
3 = Half the time
5 = Almost always

Take this test by yourself, then discuss together as a family.

1.      We look for the good instead of the bad in our family members and express appreciation once a day or more.

2.      I feel our family is committed to riding out life’s storms together as well as to enjoying the beautiful times.

3.      What happens in our family is more important than anything else-work, school, friends, relatives, church, etc.

4.      We are able to openly and honestly communicate our concerns to each other without being negative and attacking.

5.      We spend regular, unhurried time together, for no other reason than to enjoy each other’s company.

6.      We reinforce instead of ridiculing other family members; complimenting them on their improvements and successes.

7.      I feel certain my family is “shock proof” – nothing I might do would cause them to stop loving me.

8.      Expressions of individuality and personal interests and ideas are permitted and encouraged in our family without damaging our family commitment together.

9.      We avoid sex stereotypes in how we share responsibilities in our family and remain open to changing individual assignments.

10.     Our family responds to individual or family crises by pulling together rather than being pulled apart.

11.     We give family members the same or greater respect that we give a close friend or boss.

12.     Sexual expression is healthy and satisfying in our marriage and reveals that sexuality is valued and controlled in our family.

13.     My family makes me feel truly self-confident, worthwhile and happy.

14.     In our family we go out of our way to help each other without being asked.

15.     I feel good about how close we are as a family.

Allow each person to share his/her answer and give time for them to share why they answered the way that they did – do this without comment or criticism.  Spouses should discuss #12 without the kids around. All marriages and families will have room-to-grow. Let grace rule the day!

 

The Family Test2018-07-30T23:22:03-05:00

Dysfunctional Family

Dysfunctional Family Definition

A dysfunctional family is a family in which conflict, misbehavior and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur continually, leading other members to accommodate such actions. Children sometimes grow up in such families with the understanding that such an arrangement is normal. Dysfunctional families are most often a result of the alcoholism, substance abuse, or other addictions of parents, parents’ untreated mental illnesses/defects or personality disorders, or the parents emulating their own dysfunctional parents and dysfunctional family experiences.

Dysfunctional Families: 10 Characteristics

Characteristic 1: Shame is used to control

Family members are compared to one another negatively, and controlled and coerced using shaming tactics such as name calling, impossible standards, and never being seen as good enough, sorry enough, or quiet enough.

Characteristic 2: Performance oriented

Value and acceptance are achieved by what is done, never by who you are. Family members are told they will never measure up, but to keep trying harder. There is no real sense of what constitutes value or personal worth.

Characteristic 3: Unspoken rules

Most rules only become spoken when broken; and they can change without notice. Unspoken rules are more powerful than written rules; they include: Don’t talk: There are no problems here, if you think there are, then you are (have) the problem. Everything is private and unspoken. Can’t win: double binds. Never lie, but tell the person on the phone I’m not here. Tell your parents everything, but don’t tell this to Mom, it might upset her. Don’t feel: No one cares how you feel. Feelings are messy; only performance and appearance counts; feelings become irrelevant.

Characteristic 4: Communication is always coded

Needs or feelings can never be expressed directly, and verbal statements are seldom to be taken at face value. For example, “Do me a favor” really means, “Do it now or else,” or “It would be nice if someone around here took out the trash,” means “You do it now (or else).” Messages are never direct, therefore triangulation is common. No one really talks to each other. Bizarre or inappropriate behaviors are explained, rationalized, softened (coded). Example, “You know your Dad didn’t really mean…”

Characteristic 5: Emotional numbness

In dysfunctional families, value is given for obeying the implicit, unspoken rules, don’t feel, talk, think, upset anyone, etc. True needs are never really met; maintaining family balance is the highest goal. Consequently, family members become numb to their own needs and soon can’t even identify how they truly feel or articulate what they really want. Relationships are never deep; they are enmeshed, codependent even incestuous, but never authentic, intimate, life changing or life giving.

Characteristic 6: Adult-focused

Children are expected to be miniature adults, and are controlled by oppressive rules such as, “Act your age,” “Don’t embarrass us,” “Don’t touch,” “Don’t be a pest,” “Don’t have to much fun,” “Don’t laugh too hard,” “Don’t ask for anything.” The real message is “Don’t act like a child,” because children are too spontaneous and challenge the rigidity and need to control in these families.

Characteristic 7: Preoccupation with fault and blame

It is normal to make mistakes and to be held accountable. However, dysfunctional families don’t merely hold others accountable, they indict them. Behaviors are given too much power. The message is Don’t ever make us look bad, embarrass us, bring attention to us, expose us, etc. Therefore mistakes are dealt with harshly, with tons of shame and blame. A great deal of energy is expended to find fault, or avoid fault. No one wants to take responsibility; overreaction is common. Family members can never be good enough or sorry enough. The best bet is to find someone else to blame.

Characteristic 8: Strong on “head skills”

Family members become very defensive; shame and blame hurt. To survive, family members become experts at self-protection and quickly learn to deny the existence of problems, blame others and rationalize issues away. There is constant interrogation, asking questions for which there are no answers. “What possessed you to say/do that, is your brain malfunctioning?” The only safe answer is “I don’t know.” Emotions must never be acknowledged.

Characteristic 9: Weak on “heart skills”

Feelings are not allowed; emotions must be thought, not felt. Ask an adult who grew up in a dysfunctional home how he/she feels and you will hear thoughts, not feelings. If a feeling cannot be explained, it must not exist. Experiencing feelings such as loneliness or sadness is viewed as weakness. Pressure is applied to make these feelings go away. The result is shame and emotional numbness, as well as incredibly deep, but unexpressed sadness. Messages such as, “Don’t act like a baby.” ”Don’t get a big head about this.” “Why don’t you go cry about it.” “Who do you think you are?” or, “You’re not special,” deny the humanness and identity of family members.

Characteristic 10: People appear okay, but are incredibly needy

People come away from dysfunctional families with some important inner beliefs: “I am not lovable; I am only OK when I perform; I am not capable, valuable or worthwhile; I don’t know where I fit in or belong.” Family members exist to perpetuate and support the system; it doesn’t exist to equip, nurture or affirm them. However, since everyone is so needy and empty, this rarely happens. Consequently, family members are indicted for failing and manipulated into trying harder–leading to greater despair. Shame and neediness gets passed on to future relationships. The irony is, that on the surface, individuals appear whole and OK. Underneath however, they are empty, crippled and disconnected. They long for authentic connection, but don’t know how. Their system is perpetuated. Unless something is done…

Dysfunctional Family2018-07-30T23:22:03-05:00

Music brings us together in celebration

Music brings us together in celebration

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A church is a community

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My trust in God flows out of the experience of his loving me, day in and day out, whether the day is stormy or fair, whether I’m sick or in good health, whether I’m in a state of grace or disgrace. He comes to me where I live and loves me as I am.

 

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From many we become one

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Music brings us together in celebration2015-09-02T19:10:01-05:00

How do you give back to others?

How do you give back to others?

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A church is a community

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My trust in God flows out of the experience of his loving me, day in and day out, whether the day is stormy or fair, whether I’m sick or in good health, whether I’m in a state of grace or disgrace. He comes to me where I live and loves me as I am.

 

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From many we become one

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How do you give back to others?2015-06-03T19:52:54-05:00

Is space travel a religious matter?

Is space travel a religious matter?

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A church is a community

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My trust in God flows out of the experience of his loving me, day in and day out, whether the day is stormy or fair, whether I’m sick or in good health, whether I’m in a state of grace or disgrace. He comes to me where I live and loves me as I am.

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From many we become one

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Is space travel a religious matter?2015-06-03T19:52:32-05:00

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